Marriage is hard. Yes, it is for everyone.
We tell everyone do whatever needs to be done before calling it quits. You never want to look back and have regrets, thinking, “I could have done more”, “We should have tried this or that.” Do all you can, and then some!
Of course we are not talking about any kind of abuse. Just the normal irritants of life that can become a big deal if we don’t deal with stuff.
If it is hard for everyone, and IT IS, just ask yourself who you want to do the hard stuff with. A different person won’t make marriage easy. Everyone has issues and everyone brings them into marriage.
Do the hard work. Years later, you’ll be glad you did.